Preface to the Fatherhood Essays

This is the preface to the Fatherhood essays that I am writing.

I have been a grandson, son, father, grandfather and recent great-grandfather, yet the memories of becoming a new father remain fresh in my mind. Severe chronic challenges were encountered,  yet, with God's help I was able to prevail. This collection of essays is about what was learned on that journey from a young man to a great-grand-father. Many things were learned, challenges overcome, mistakes and memories were made; a lot of growing was done by the entire family.

These essays contain the observations, experiences and challenges that were faced by up to 4 generations of fathers. The manner of writing used here may seem a bit severe, perhaps even negative at times. The motive of heart is to communicate the unvarnished truth so that, with God's help, you too can prevail as a father. These writings can serve as kind of a template of several fathers' approach to managing the challenges and issues of fatherhood. I don't think the challenges are unique, but the response to these challenges will be unique. The issues raised in these essays may help you prepare for the unexpected.

In my journey through life, there was almost no training available on how to handle or manage the challenges of life. I had to learn how to manage and how to grow while struggling to keep the family together. These essays do not contain problem solving "recipes". You, your situations, and circumstances are all unique and demand unique responses which ultimately are determined by you.

Sudden, surprising challenges can scramble your life, goals, ambitions, relationships, self-image, and feelings. You can be plunged into an unfamiliar, unpleasant, painful, and confusing world. What is disclosed here are the tools and skills that have been important to be able to navigate such a world and to endure the challenges that were encountered.

You may find these essays a bit "preachy" and be overwhelmed by all the advice that is presented. Be assured that what is presented here is not theory; I lived what is shared here. My initial experience as a father was to make mistake after mistake and almost become a complete failure. It required time to become skillful. These essays expose the reader to decades of learning in a very short amount of time. Give yourself time to absorb what is shared. It is expected that the reader may experience some very strong emotions about this information, just as I did. I was driven to find the truth, so regardless of my emotions, I worked to learn until there was a resolution and I was at peace. This requires time and patience.

Fatherhood is one of the most important jobs you will ever have. As you endure and prevail, your children can learn to endure and prevail as well.

To the Father and Mother

It requires and father and mother to produce a child. A child needs both a father and a mother to raise him or her. This is a biological, genetic requirement, not an artificial social construct based on artificial gender roles. As such, it is a godly human right for each child to have a male father and a female mother to raise that child. It is best that the father and mother fulfill their responsibilities together with unity of purpose. I raised my children with their mother but I am not qualified to write about motherhood.

To society in general

In these essays, I unapologetically use gender specific pronouns which accurately reflect reality. If the reader finds this to be offensive, then my advice is to stop reading. 

 

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The Quest for Deliverance

Knowledge, even self-knowledge is power. The knowledge presented here is to help you begin to develop skills to stand against the challenges of life that can confront your family. The quest for deliverance can be harmful, unless you understand the risks.

One of the worst, heart-rending challenges is a father's inability to protect his precious children from every merciless attack. Accidents, sickness and disease all expose this human weakness. When these challenges happen to a child, various emotions can be overwhelming to the father and the despair of helplessness can dominate. These emotions can debilitate even the strongest father. Our ignorance about how to proceed can be costly and even dangerous.

It is completely natural and understandable to be driven to find a solution, a cure, just as quickly as possible, regardless of the cost. There is the desire for healing so that life can get back to normal. The attack on the child is also an attack on our plans, schedules, finances, almost everything of critical importance that holds our life together. These could all crumble into a magnificent ruin. A cure MUST be found RIGHT NOW! It is certainly not obvious, but I have found that this is an ineffective mind-set. Panic is never advised. The desperate, singular focus on obtaining (and expecting) an immediate cure can produce additional long term anguish, pain, and suffering for the family.

All 4 generations of my family (starting with my grandfathers) have experienced chronic health related challenges. I spent years focused on and expecting a cure for the challenges in my immediate family. I observed other branches of the family in the same quest. We all ended up without the expected complete deliverance. Religion and the self-help industry provided lots of advice, but few godly results. I have seen people at this point become consumed with anger and bitterness directed at their heavenly father. My response was to return to the scriptures and research each record of healing that I could find, looking for a "healing recipe". There had to be something that all the accounts had in common, something I was missing. What was found was not what I expected.

I did not find a "healing recipe". Every single act of godly deliverance was different, tailored to the individual and their unique circumstances. There was one attribute which was common to a majority of the accounts. This one attribute is "endurance". Those in need endured, sometimes for years. My response to this discovery was to end my singular focus on deliverance. Instead, I focused on "enduring until deliverance". I had a great conflict about this change because it contradicted so much of what I (and others) had been taught. The bottom line is that what "prosperity" religion and the self-help industry adherents believe is that to change their focus on deliverance is a capitulation to the challenge. They believe it is wrong, is sinful, and is dishonoring God. There is much fear associated with this destructive, erroneous, singular focus on deliverance.  However, what I had been taught was shown to be in error, so I continued with my new focus on "enduring until deliverance". This change in focus made a dramatic difference in my life and family. Now it was OK to make incremental improvements without the attending feelings of condemnation, disappointment and failure. The stress and pressure to produce complete deliverance NOW was gone. Virtually every aspect of my family life improved. It wasn't that things got easier or the circumstances changed. I changed, and was able to become skillful in this aspect of life.

All these improvements did not happen overnight; I did not get skillful the next day. No, this required years of patient persistence. The first thing that happened was the release from the emotional stress, condemnation and disappointment produced by the singular focus on deliverance. This release provided more energy to apply to endurance; I became stronger. Notice that I had to learn to become skillful while under attack. It is another example of "on the job training" which we experience. My children who lived through these challenging times learned how to endure. They made these skills their own as they endured their own challenges as adults.

No, you won't find the deliverance you are seeking for every challenge that faces you. We all die of something. We will all be working to improve some aspect of our life when we do pass away. Growth and improvement is a never ending process in this life. I have spoken to other beloved children of God who are enduring chronic health issues. They have not allowed these challenges to stop them from serving and walking with God.

My maternal grandfather had learned to live in this practical way. When his son-in-law, my uncle, became totally blind, grandpa used his contacts to obtain a scholarship at a premier school for the blind. My uncle eventually obtained a PHD in psychology. In his career, he began pioneering research with emotionally disturbed handicapped children. By standing against these formidable challenges and enduring, he became a man, husband and father of great godly value. His family continued with the singular focus on deliverance which (I believe) took an emotional toll on them. The difficulty with their quest certainly touched my heart. In the end, none of this prevented the godly impact of his family in this life.

Things that rob your endurance and peace

When you and your family are faced with the challenges of life such as accidents and illness, there are common reactions which are not beneficial. These reactions, although understandable, actually weaken us. The challenges of life are actually processes of destruction. This process of destruction is designed to influence the victim, close family and caretakers to abandon their self-directed life. You then are bound to a life which is directed by uncontrollable circumstances and overwhelming emotion. It is accomplished through a process of stimulus and response to keep you emotionally upset, hopeless, helpless and weak. Understanding the nature of the attack and its purpose can help you resist the processes that are at work.

For years I asked the questions, "why me?", "why do I have to go through this?" "what did I do wrong?", "when will this end?". You may have asked these or other similar questions. Eventually I learned that having the answers to these questions would not help me endure. In some cases the answers could prove burdensome. It is better not to dwell on these questions. I have provided foundational answer to the question "what did I do wrong?" in my book "Godly Abundance and Prosperity". This book will also help with the obsessive religious habits of self-accusation and self-condemnation.

It is very detrimental to hide and suppress any anger you may have with God. This anger may be suppressed out of guilt. God is much bigger than our emotions and our limited view. It is better to honestly open your heart to him and share yourself with him. You are his child and he will treat you with all the love he has. Yes, I have been angry with him. It may sound silly, but for my own health I even forgave him because of my emotional perception of having been harmed. Some emotions can't be prevented!

There is nothing godly to gain by playing the "blame game". If blame is affixed to something or someone, the next step is to "make sure it never happens again", which is nothing but revenge. All this is actually part of the destructive process which challenges you. It is designed to rob your strength and peace. It does this by keeping you angry, upset, bitter and focused on how unfairly hurt you are. Ultimately you become a chronic victim, consumed and imprisoned by anger and bitterness. There is no deliverance to be had on this path of destruction.

Although it may require some time, when disaster strikes, discard the panic as quickly as possible. Manage the immediate needs but be prepared for the long-haul. Don't give yourself over to anger, bitterness or despair. Share your anger and grief with God. Keep your focus on your family and their needs. For yourself, keep your focus on enduring until deliverance is achieved!

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The “God” Question

Almost everyone knows the "God" question; it is almost a cultural icon. Most already have an instinctive response to it. When this question is asked, the mind is propelled into a predictable, conditioned reaction. A ritual of rhetoric begins which excludes genuine, critical thought and meaningful discussion.

As has been observed, the "God" question is really about religion and religious doctrine; "God" has nothing to do with the question. When the rhetorical ritual is finished, we have learned about philosophical and religious positions. We have learned about the debating abilities of those involved. This ritual has provided a cloak of darkness for the participants to hide behind.

If you have not guessed by now, the iconic "God" question is, "Do you believe in God?". Here is a question that can be asked of all, which could prompt a more honest, thoughtful response: "Who or what do you worship?", or, "Who or what do you serve?" Without exception, everyone worships someone or something; everyone serves someone or something. Even the professing Christian serves someone or something. Even the professing atheist serves someone or something. Everyone has a personal god that they worship and serve. Usually it is multiple gods that are held in reverent, loving esteem. These are gods such as money, self, appetite, fame, and family. The pantheon of gods worshipped and served are too numerous to list.

Ultimately, whatever is the first love of your heart is what you will worship and serve. These hidden gods should be sought out, revealed and discussed.

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Your Values

How well you develop as a human, as a man and as a father depends much upon your values – your integrity, your moral and ethical values. As a father, you can be assured that your values will be sorely tested; you will discover what is really valuable to you.

These values are the ones you actually live by, not the values you may aspire to. In the past, a man's integrity provided the foundation of his reputation. Reputation was part of his identity as a man, it was a component of masculinity.

Your moral and ethical values – what you believe and do – determine your value as a person, a man and a father. Your values determine the expression of your inherent value as a human being. In this manner, you determine whether you will be worthless or priceless, whether your life matters, or not.

A valuable long term self-discovery project is to find the answer to these questions – "Why do I have these beliefs? Why do I have these values? How do I determine what is good and what is evil?"

A useful book about a man who became very valuable to our country is "the Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin". See a description of his book here. As a young man, Benjamin Franklin had to determine his values and build his reputation. His book provides a record of how one man labored at this task and the results of his labor.

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News Links

In the event social media and the search engines stop access to your favorite news sites, I have provided a list of some of my favorite news and commentary sites. In these uncertain times, it is advisable to save a list of your own favorite sites. You should control this list – store it outside of your favorite browser and 'cloud' storage which could evaporate suddenly.

Infowars http://www.infowars.com/
Breitbart http://www.breitbart.com/
Drudge http://www.drudgereport.com/
Rush https://www.rushlimbaugh.com/
Mark Dice https://www.youtube.com/MarkDice
John Brown Vid Me https://vid.me/Iconoclast

An Arduous Season

This country has been through an arduous season of politics for about 17 months. This has left many of us exhausted and emotionally drained. Society is severely stressed, traumatized and fractured. There are reasons for this that are not very apparent.

We, the citizens of the United States have been collectively subjected to what can be described as a national 'psyops'. This is a term which describes a psychological attack (an assault) upon a population. You can read more about this on Wikipedia.

Whenever a widespread action such as this assault, a war, an economic or social dislocation occurs, some kind of power must be invoked in order to move the planned event and realize its impact. People can conspire and plan, but the plans will come to nothing if there is no power invoked which will energize the plans. Additionally, raw power without expert knowledge and wisdom is worthless.

The truth is, YOU have been subjected to a constant assault for some months now. This assault has been carefully planned and executed. After enduring this abuse, it is no wonder that many feel so exhausted and dissipated.

This particular psyops is unusual in its viciousness and ferocity. It appeared to be an assault from our own people, the ruling class in the government. Note that I did not write that these human agents initiated or caused this assault; the blame for that lies elsewhere.

The evil assault on our country, ourselves and our fellow citizens, has its origins in the spiritual realm. This evil did not originate with people. The purpose of any such spiritual evil is always to steal, kill and destroy. Our country was (and is) at stake; this was an assault to steal, kill and destroy our country. The term "our country" includes our hearts, minds, families, society and everything of value that exists in our country.

It requires spiritual power from the gift of holy spirit in order to have the ability to detect and discern the movement of spiritual power. This discernment allows you to perceive what is moving, whether the power is from the God and Father of Jesus Christ or if it is from the god of this world. Without spiritual discernment it is not possible to make sense of the spiritual realities of life. This discernment is readily available to any human from God through the accomplishments of Jesus Christ.

The spiritual power moved by the god of this world works in the physical realm through people who act as conduits. The manner in which this power moves is carefully hidden so that even the most expert illusionist would be deceived. Deception is key. Those who think they wield great power of rulership in the world are deceived. Those who are subject to the assaults of the human elite of this world are deceived. For the most part, neither party discerns the worldly spiritual power which is at work.

There is a deeper deception at work. This deception motivates people who are hurt to take on the role of the victim, blaming other people who seem to be the cause of the hurt. Those who take on the role of victim have difficulty to perceive the great hurt experienced by those who seem to be the victimizers. Two sisters who lived through the holocaust in Germany learned of this hurt and the great need for healing. Both the victims and the victimizers require healing. God called the surviving sister, Corrie Ten Boom to minister his healing love to those who had survived the holocaust.

Corrie endured and carried on the work that God gave her, which was not easy. Her story, in her words is readily available. The things she learned and shares is critically important for all of us who have experienced the historic psyops of this time. Those conducting the psyops have done great harm to themselves. Their need for healing wholeness is just as great as those who have been harmed by the spiritual evil which has moved on our country.

Healing, forgiveness, the power to forgive and love is available from God who loves us all. As called and enabled, Corrie Ten Boom demonstrated his will for the rest of her life. Healing, forgiveness and love can work in us as well.

Here is a link to her book "The Hiding Place"

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Question of Legitimacy

For centuries, societies have all been very concerned with the question of legitimacy. "Who has and who has not been born into a socially, religiously, and legally recognized marriage?" Ultimately, this question concerns who is and who is not spiritually acceptable. This question was applied to Jesus; some conclude that he is illegitimate. This conclusion can influence some ill advised spiritual decisions.

The question of legitimacy cannot really be settled by "facts", opinions and information that come to us from society and institutions in the physical realm. Spiritual questions require information from the spiritual realm. When dealing with such questions it is important to remember:

"What God respects and esteems is an abomination to the world. What the world respects and esteems is an abomination to God."

Many have been rejected, treated cruelly and shamefully by family and society at large because of this question of legitimacy. Even today, the consequences of being branded as "illegitimate" can lead to needless pain and suffering.

When dealing with this question, its' spiritual aspect is usually neglected. I have known several people who could be considered "illegitimate"; yet each one of these individuals have "Christ in them" and walk with God. This truth wreaks the very notion of "legitimacy". Consider that God knew each one of these people and called them before the beginning of the world! Consider also, that

"…what God has called 'clean', let no one call 'unclean'…"

When it comes to the question of legitimacy, begin with the spiritual aspects; seek what God has to say about the matter. His answer will often contradict what everyone else has to say. There may be social consequences for respecting what God respects, so be strong, be ready.

Finally, the world will use any excuse to inflict abuse. Legitimacy is just one of the many excuses. Social acceptance is not something to value or seek. The one thing we can depend upon is the acceptance of God; respect His acceptance above everything else, even above your own feelings about yourself.

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DEPLORABLES

An open letter to the "leadership" of the American political left

Recently, the current public figurehead of the political left verbally excoriated a major portion of the American electorate. To some, it is quite astonishing that she would be so abusive to those who have enabled the federal government and its policies. After all, the labor of these productive people is plundered by the government, year after year. It would be rational then, to expect thanks and praise would be heaped upon them! Yet, this is the political season when rationalism and reason take a vacation.

The following has been extracted from a news report:

she claimed that half of Trump’s supporters nationally—millions of people—were a “basket of deplorables” who were “irredeemable” and “racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, Islamophobic.
"Some of those folks — they are irredeemable, but thankfully they are not America

To one who was raised as a good liberal progressive and has observed the social and political behavior of this country for more than 4 decades, these remarks were not a surprise. The views and emotion expressed have been known by observation for years. I, for one, am gratified to be among those who are held in such esteem by this public figurehead.

Our form of government is a REPUBLIC. It is NOT a democracy. The people delegated some (not all) of THEIR political power to the federal government for specific goals which are limited in scope. The right and ability for the federal government to exist and operate proceeds from the people. IT IS NOT THE GOVERNMENT WHICH CONFERS RIGHTS UPON THE CITIZENS, IT IS THE PEOPLE WHO CONFER RIGHTS UPON THE GOVERNMENT. Thus, the preamble of the constitution begins with "We the people…"

It is said that we are a nation of laws or a nation governed by laws. Most of the time, these statements bring to mind laws which are over the people of the country. It is quite remarkable then to consider that the VERY FIRST laws written are laws which define and LIMIT the scope of operation of the government formed by this constitution. The basic functioning of the government established by the constitution is to "…SECURE THE BLESSINGS OF LIBERTY…" That is all, that is it. Everything else is outside of its scope of operation.

This constitution is what the elected officials and military personnel swear to protect and defend. However, common political practice is to ignore or attack and subvert the constitution. One of the most egregious subversions of this constitution is the effort to eliminate the borders of the United States of America. The border defines the physical area of our constitutional REPUBLIC, that area where LIBERTY dominates. Without a border, the United States and its constitution does not exist. The effort to eliminate our borders is an attack on the homes, families, and persons of the United States. It is a personal attack which all too often becomes a real physical attack with deadly concequences.

Another egregious subversion of this constitution is the armed robbery of the citizens of the United States by the federal government. This armed robbery is used for purposes which are outside of the boundaries defined by the constitution. Thus these purposes are unconstitutional.

The founding fathers of this country and the constitution knew that the GREATEST ENEMY of a people is the GOVERNMENT. The federal government has certainly justified their sentiment! Those who love liberty recognize the existence of some form of government is required in order to secure and maintain liberty. If government strays from this purpose, then it becomes a pernicious tyrant.

This federal government is an armed tyrant who is the enemy of liberty. Those who love liberty dare to actively stand for the constitution and against the abusive tyrant. Those who love the federal government and worship its power desperately hate the children of liberty.

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Live A Godly Marriage

Couple starting their marriage

Couple starting their marriage

What is required in order to live a Godly marriage? Ephesians contains a section on living wisely. Wisdom is knowing what to do, how to behave, how to live. Within this context is a short section on marriage, the responsibilities of the wife and of the husband. It requires godly wisdom in order to fulfill these responsibilities.

The verse just before the section on marriage, Ephesians 5:21, states that all who are committed to God by way of Jesus Christ are to submit to one another out of respect for Christ. Given the context, it refers to people living in godly wisdom submitting to others who are also living in godly wisdom. The word "submit" here is the same word that is used in reference to the wife. This submitting is not to result in slavery, abuse or anything evil. It is not a thoughtless action but is done with great godly wisdom which results in godliness. In short, we work together to exhibit the will and love of God in the physical realm.
 
We will begin with the responsibilities of the husband. The husband is to love his wife in the same manner as Christ loves all the believers, collectively, throughout all time. The husband is to love his wife in the same manner as Christ gave himself up for the believers. Jesus Christ first committed himself to God to do what God wanted. Jesus Christ communicated and illustrated God's love for each one of us, regardless of our response. Jesus Christ does not manipulate, coerce, nag or abuse anyone into doing what He wants. That is the manner of love that a husband is show towards his wife. That is the manner of love that he is committed to have for his wife. He must live with godly wisdom in order to fulfill his responsibilities.
 
The scripture about the responsibilities of a wife states that the wife is to submit to her husband in the same manner in which she submits to Jesus Christ. This does not mean that she is a puppet or a slave of a thoughtless man. Rather, as the couple both understand the will of God in each specific situation, she applies her godly wisdom in coordination with the husband in order to bring to pass the will of God.
 
The husband is to love his wife and the wife is to respect her husband. This love and respect is to continue throughout all stages of their life together. Emotions, good looks, health, and finances may change, but your commitment to God and each other should not change.
 
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I Can Do ALL Things?

Can I really do ALL things? Much has been written, taught and expected about one verse of scripture, Philippians 4:13. This scripture has been rudely yanked out of context and magnified to validate all kinds of error. In essence it is believed that because of the strength obtained from God, I can accomplish my desired goals and overcome anything! Let's closely examine the context and determine if this belief is accurate or not.
 
The following is an excerpt from the book "Godly Abundance and Prosperity" in the chapter "Be Content".
 
Philippians 4:11
11 Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.
 Paul has learned how to be content, regardless of the state of his physical circumstances and resources.
 

12 I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need.

Paul was not a puppet to uncertainty and challenging circumstances. He does not ignore his circumstances, he faces them, he deals with them. His contentment is not dependent upon his economic circumstances.
 
Notice that his contentment is a skill he learned. He has learned the secret of facing and managing unstable, changing economic conditions. What is this secret knowledge and wisdom? Where is it?
 

13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Be mindful of the context! What “…all things…” is Paul referring to?
  • Contentment
  • Facing
  • Plenty
  • Hunger
  • Abundance
  • Need
Paul is certainly not referring to being able to accomplish anything, anytime, anywhere, regardless of his resources.
 
The secret to contentment is within your relationship with your Heavenly Father by way of the gift of holy spirit. That is where you will have your own personal (internal, mental) need met so that you too can be content in every economic circumstance.  
<End of excerpt from the book>
 
In conclusion, it was not Paul's circumstances that changed, it was Paul that changed, so that he could remain content. He managed his changing circumstances by changing the manner of his life and behavior.
 
1 Timothy 6:6
Now there is GREAT GAIN in godliness with contentment
 
Regardless of our circumstances, it is available for each one of us to be so strengthened that we can be content every 24 hours. We can experience the great gain of "godliness with contentment"!
 
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